It is difficult raising your children in this day and age. There is so much competition for their attention. You are not sure that you are doing it correctly and if you make a mistake it could affect their lives forever. Now that our children are adults they have returned home often and let us know what we did right and wrong. For the most part we passed the test of parenthood. The parts that we failed on were small but looking back I wish that I knew then what I know now. As women we want to be perfect in all that we do. That’s a good aim but we will not achieve it 100% so we should not worry about perfection. However we should continue to study the WORD OF GOD to improve ourselves and seek advice from those who have already walked where we are heading. It was for that reason that Paul told us in Titus 2 that the older woman should teacher the younger. Face it! There are some mistakes you will not be able to avoid but those that you can avoid should be. Learn from what others have been through and it saves you a truck load of worries. With that said as your official Titus woman of the hour I will give you some of the things that helped me raise my children to fine adults. These will be some of the ones that my husband and I got 100% satisfaction on. During these troubling times there are five things that parents can do that will help their children survive to be GODLY adults.
One of the most important things that parents of the Old Testament did for their children was to dedicate their children back to GOD. We should do this when our children are first born, however if you have not it is not too late. We must remember that our son or daughter is a special gift of GOD to us. So by dedicating them back to GOD it shows him that we love him with our best gift. It puts our children back into his hands and protection because these kids are our special gift to HIM. You can dedicate them by doing the following. This dedication should be done by both parents, if you can but one will do if there is no other choice. This can be done in your home during your prayer time.
a. Get alone with GOD.
b. Confess your own iniquities
- Psalm 66:18 says that if You regard any iniquity in your heart, GOD will not hear your prayer.
- Ask GOD to reveal any area in your life that has not been given to HIM or any stronghold of satan (false philosophies, sinful habits, unconfessed sin) that is still standing. A good example of this would be to read Daniel’s prayer in Daniel 9:3-19.
- Acknowledge the specific iniquity.
- Ask GOD to cleanse the iniquity in the blood of OUR LORD JESUS.
- Ask GOD to reclaim any ground given to satan knowingly or unknowingly and tear down every stronghold.
c. Claim freedom for your children.
- Pray that GOD would cut off generational iniquities and sinful influences.
- Claim Psalm 103:17, that from now on righteousness would be the heritage of your children and for future generations.
d. Dedicate your children to GOD.
- Verbalize your desire to raise these children for the LORD. Pray that your children would come to a saving faith in CHRIST JESUS at a young age. Pray that their lives would bring GLORY TO GOD.
- Ask for wisdom and knowledge to raise your children in the way GOD would have them to go.
Pray daily over them each and every morning. Rededicate them at different stages of their growth and developement as the LORD LEADS YOU TO DO.
A wonderful custom in the Jewish home that dates back to the day of Isaac and Jacob was having the head of the home speak a blessing over the children. Traditionally this was done by the father of the house, however it can be done by the male or female head of the house. We had a Sunday dinner and both my husband and myself spoke blessings over each one of our children. Some of the things that may be said in prayer over them are as follows:
a. ABBA FATHER WE RECEIVE, WELCOME, AND ACKNOWLEDGE EACH OF OUR CHILDREN AS A DELIGHTFUL BLESSING FROM YOU. I SPEAK YOUR BLESSINGS UPON THEM AND OVER THEM.
b. CHILDREN, WE BLESS YOU IN THE NAME OF JESUS, PROCLAIMING THE BLESSINGS OF GOD, OUR REDEEMER, UPON YOU. MAY HE GIVE YOU WISDOM, A REVERENTIAL FEAR OF GOD, AND A HEART OF LOVE.
c. WE HAVE NO GREATER JOY THAN THIS, TO HEAR THAT OUR CHILDREN ARE LIVING THEIR LIVES IN YOU LORD JESUS AND YOUR TRUTH.
d. MAY OUR LORD CREATE IN YOU THE DESIRE TO ATTEND TO HIS WORDS, A WILLING AND OBEDIENT HEART THAT YOU MAY CONSENT AND SUBMIT TO HIS SAYINGS AND WALK IN HIS WAYS. MAY YOUR EYES LOOK STRAIGHT AHEAD WITH PURPOSE FOR THE FUTURE. MAY YOUR TONGUE BE AS THE PEN OF A READY WRITER, WRITING MERCY AND KINDNESS UPON THE TABLETS OF YOUR HEART. MAY YOU SPEAK THE TRUTH IN LOVE. MAY YOUR HANDS DO THE WORKS OF THE FATHER; MAY YOUR FEET WALK THE PATHS THAT HE HAS FOREORDAINED FOR YOU.
e. MAY THE LORD PREPARE YOU AND YOUR FUTURE MATE TO LOVE AND HONOR ONE ANOTHER, AND MAY HE GRANT TO YOUR UNION UPRIGHT SONS AND DAUGHTERS WHO WILL LIVE IN ACCORDANCE WITH HIS WORD. MAY YOUR SOURCE OF LIVELIHOOD BE HONORABLE AND SECURE, SO THAT YOU WILL EARN A LIVING WITH YOUR OWN HANDS. MAY YOU ALWAYS WORSHIP JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR LORD AND SAVIOR IN SPIRIT AND IN TRUTH.
f. THIS WE PRAY ABOVE ALL THINGS THAT YOU MAY ALWAYS PROSPER AND BE IN GOOD HEALTH. THIS WE PRAY IN THE NAME OF JESUS THE CHRIST WHO IS OUR LORD AND SAVIOR AND OUR GOD AND KING. AMEN
3. Raising your children for GOD
Go to your bible each day and ask the LORD to help you raise each one of your children for HIM. Ask LORD JESUS to help you to eliminate each negative pattern and practice the positive patterns more consistently. Make an effort to take time out to get on your knees and pray the scriptures that HE has given you over each one of your children. Seek the counsel of your pastor, church elders both male and female, spend time with them teaching them GODLY WAYS. Remember doing great in school is fine but if you teach them GODLY WAYS they will do well in school. Its work raising your children for GOD and many will have something negative to say, seek the LORD FOR YOURSELF, and pray, pray,pray.
4. PRAY AGAINST ANGER
Many times our attitudes reflect the behavior and attitudes of our children. We need to search our own life in relation to the struggles we see in our children. Once we have seen the things in ourselves we must repent of our sins and receive OUR LORD’S forgiveness. We must ask the LORD for power and grace and forsake our sins and walk in newness of life. We must ask HIM in prayer that HE would limit the damaging effects of our failures on our children. Where we see failures in their lives, pray for conviction and grace for them to change. Seek the word and directions in all areas that affect the attitudes of our children. With each scripture given to you pray out loud. Some of the things that should be prayed over are as follows:
a. Modeling anger.
b. By not having marital harmony
c. By consistently disciplining in anger.
d. By being inconsistent with discipline.
e. By having double standards.
f. By constantly finding fault.
g. By not admitting when you are wrong.
h. By reversing GOD-given roles in your household.
i. By not listening to the child’s opinion or the child’s side of the story.
j. By comparing the children to each other or to other people’s children.
k.By not taking time talking with your children.
l. By failing to keep promises.
m. By giving too much freedom.
n. By being too strict.
o. By abusing the child physically.
p.By having unrealistic expectaions.
These are just a few ask the LORD to give you what you need to resolve anger and conflict in your children and household.
5. PRAYING A HEDGE OF PROTECTION AROUND OUR CHILDREN EACH DAY
We are dealing with spiritual powers. Paul teaches us to put on our whole armor of GOD and stand against the attacks of the wicked ones. One of our most powerful weapons is to pray a hedge of protection daily around each one of our children. There are three parts to a prayer for a hedge of protection:
a. BIND AND REBUKE IN THE NAME OF JESUS,the power of satan IN THE LIFE OF EACH ONE IN YOUR FAMILY. You must be a mighty warrior through GOD to pull down strongholds with the POWER OF HIS WORD.
b. PRAY IN THE BLOOD AND NAME OF JESUS CHRIST.
c. CLAIM THE SCRIPTURE THAT RELATES TO THE KIND OF PROTECTION THAT IS NEEDED.
Being a parent is a great responsiblity. You hold the lives of your children in your hands. As a CHILD OF GOD it is more difficult to raise them according to GOD’S WILL with satan fooling the world that what we do is strange and over the top. Many times our children can’t understand why we do what we do. Its up to us to teach them the proper way of living. Things that are clean, pure and wholesome appear so out of place that children are afraid of them. They can tolerate the wrong of the worlds without flinching. However allow them to come to a HOLY GHOST FILLED CHURCH SERVICE AND THEY ARE TRULY UNCOMFORTABLE AND SOMETIMES FRIGHTNTEN. We must change this by changing our ways of doing things. We must do the WILL OF GOD AND SEEK HIS DIRECTION. As a married couple we must stand as a united front on the ways to raise our children. It can not be do as I say not as I do. Children watch our every move and they know when what we are doing is not what we are saying. I pray that this is helpful and that you can have a easier time of child rearing. I pray that one day your children will come back home as men and women in CHRIST and declare that “DAD AND MOM YOU GOT AN A+ IN RAISING US….GOOD JOB…YOU PASSED!!!
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